A journey into my father’s struggle

As soon as I finished my graduation, I started to work hoping that if I earn, would make my life a bit more ‘independent’. However, it hasn’t been long that I have realized that independence is by far the hardest thing
you get in life. Our teenage goes by getting all kind of things from our parents and not realizing that how they get those things for us.

Even when I am writing all this, I feel proud of my father’s ability to raise five children and giving them quality education, however, at the same time I feel pity for him. Although I earn considerably well being a bachelor, I
still cannot manage myself with my current income and this makes me wonder how did he deal with 5 kids??

I tried analysing my father, how he managed all his kids, and soon I realized a reality, a bitter truth, and something my selfishness never let me see, something that eventually made me cry over a thousand times.

 For the past 7 years my father never bought new shoes, neither he bought new clothes. I used to get angry when my parents didn’t get me new clothes whenever the seasons changed or on Eid, and then there was my father who didn’t
even buy clothes on Eid and I never realized that because I was concerned about myself!! “Selfish”.

It’s wasn’t that only I was like this, all of us brothers were like this. Why? Because from the day we were born, we got everything that we wanted, and that surely made us think about ourselves…only!!!

Although we brothers always asked him to buy himself some cool pair of new jeans and shoes to look a little different but we always got one answer from him “
menay kya karna hai le k??” and when he did buy clothes or shoes, he went to the weekly bazaar, and bought things for less money. Yes, we brother used to hate that. Who wants their parents to wear cheap clothes when they are capable to buy branded
clothes as well? But my father did.

To be honest I first thought that my father hesitated to spend money but as the time went by and I grew up to see the reality of life and the planning my father had for his family, I was not only impressed but was proud of my father.
Raising five boys and making them study abroad is not a child’s play.

Having to see my father put aside all his needs and accepting even all our wants as our needs was something I never understood. Being the youngest, I got this mystery solved quite quickly and postponed my international education
plan. Not because my father cannot finance me, rather he himself says that I need to complete my masters from abroad however I believe that he has done too much for his children that if I go by the same I would feel that I have put more burden on his old shoulders
and this is something I cannot see to happen with my dear old father.

Most of us never realize the fact that our parents, specifically our father shed their blood, irrespective of their age, to make us comfortable in all aspects and at all times. Still, there are many roaming around wasting money
as if they are going to get it the same way all their life.

Yes if father’s lived more than their children then this would’ve been possible. Nevertheless, when the time comes a person realizes that how difficult it is to manage their own needs and then wonders that… how …a father manages…the
whole family.

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Posted by Khayyam Bokhari on Nov 4 2011. Filed under Editorial, Society. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry