Surviving the one-sided love story (Part 1)

Part 1

It is not rare to find ourselves developing feelings for someone who does not feel the same way for us and refuse to reciprocate our love. The unrequited love forces us to form a companionship with our loneliness and start living in a state of constant pain.
Our head becomes extremely heavy and feels like it is a ticking bomb that would explode any second. We find it hard to breathe, impossible to sleep, pretend to smile and suppress our tears. People try to comfort us through soothing words, but that hardly makes
a difference as we keep feeling incomplete without our beloved.

Regardless of what people say, nobody can understand the pain of a broken-heart. The intensity of pain also varies from individual to individual and while some find it extremely easy to heal from the injury, others have a tough time getting themselves together.
Those struggling to cope with the pain of unrequited love start to find life meaningless and start giving consideration to a handful of sleeping pills or slitting of wrists in order to rid themselves of the mental anguish.

While suicide is an extremely tempting and convenient way of putting an end of one’s misery, there are other ways of making the pain subside. The Romeo and Juliet approach, where Romeo committed suicide after mistaking the latter as dead and Juliet later
follows suit after finding her love lying dead, is only adopted by those who lack the will and courage to get back on their feet and fight the depression rather than letting it suck the life out of them. Those who have a little faith in themselves and God
take an alternative approach to curb the heart-ache and learn to live again.

Loving and losing is part of life and the sooner we realise this, the better off we will be. However, we need to understand that reality is far different from the Disney movies where a happily ever after is promised in the end. Accepting the bitter realities
of life and the possibility of failure in our love life makes us stronger and mentally prepared for a possible unfavourable outcome of our love story. We are not living in a fantasy land where all our wishes are bound to come true. We cannot get away with
acting like a three year old either who can get anything they want by thrown a tantrum.

                                                                          
–  Continued in Part 2 –

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Posted by Muhammad Qasim Hassan on Nov 11 2011. Filed under Opinion. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry