Separation calls for Self-development

There is nothing more pain inflicting in this world than seeing a loved one hurt in their relationship with another. Be it your brother or sister, it just hurts to the core seeing them being treated badly by their spouse and there is hardly anything one can do about it besides just to watch and listen.

They might not realise how much their family grieves after seeing them separate, especially when children are involved. A mother and father are vital to the upbringing of a child, but when either one are left to deal with the duty of upbringing single-handedly, having a normal life is just not an option on the table anymore.

According to the Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support of 2007 released by the U.S. Census Bureau in November of 2009, there are over 13 million single parents (84% women) in the United States of America alone.

Obviously, one never wants to be a single parent and it never starts out that way, but there are certain reasons that lead to a man and woman filing for separation and never getting back together.

Millions of women around the world are raising their children alone and have succeeded in giving their kids a normal life to live. Men might have it easier, but women, being more emotional than their counterparts, struggle more in that regard.

There is nothing embarrassing at all about being a single parent and there should never be. Being a strong person is the only thing that counts in the end and you know you will always have the unconditional support of your family members.

Even paternal/maternal relations like uncles and aunts draw out and act as they do not even know you, but your mother, father, brothers and sisters will always be there for you no matter what because they are the only ones that can actually feel what you feel.

Being a mother or father is the happiest thing anyone can experience in their lifetimes and living your life to the fullest with your children should not be barred by the fact you may be a single parent.

Many women who are divorced are unable to provide for themselves and their children without child support and according to that same report, 22% receive some sort of Medicaid, 23.5% receive food, and 12% receive public housing.

Being a single parent opens up a lot of opportunities and if you want to grab them, working towards your goals is the only way to make them happen. There are community colleges everywhere that support single mothers or fathers and a number of success stories are to be seen due to that.

J.K Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter series, is a prime example of a woman who made it big despite being a single mother living on welfare.

In the end, there is nothing stopping you from being successful and happy. Having a spouse is and has never been a prerequisite to good living and it does not have to be for you either.

You need to be confident and courageous and forget what the world might think. Keep yourself focused and work towards the life that you want to live.

Make a list of your goals and make the effort towards actually achieving them because when time comes and you are living an unsatisfied life, the only one who is to blame for that is you.

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  1. Perfect information for single parents out there. Excellent article. There should be more articles like these so the single parents can have a better and brighter future for themselves and their kids. Syra